10 minutes, ha! I’m going to show you not one, but six things. We’ll change your life and we’ll do it with time to spare.
After this, you’ll feel calm, prepared and ready to take on the world, like this:
First, imprint this image of a staircase in your head:
The word “savers” is an acronym. It stands for:
Now, every morning, right when you wake up, do each of these six things for one minute.
1. Sit upright, legs crossed, eyes closed in silence. Let your thoughts pass through. Breathe slowly and deeply, like you’re meditating.
2. Read or recite a short set of affirmations, a little pep talk for yourself. I keep mine in my nightstand. Look at yourself in the mirror for extra oomph.
3. Visualize yourself going through your day. Open your window or step outside, look at the sky, and imagine yourself actually doing the things you will do that day, whether it’s grocery shopping, filling an Excel table, writing, cold calling people or flambéing a chicken.
4. Do ONE set of ONE exercise. That’s it. Shoot for however many repetitions you can muster that day. I like push ups. Sometimes I do 20. Sometimes 50. Adapt to how well you feel.
5.Read one page in a book. This isn’t about crossing items off your reading list. It’s about finding one good piece of insight to accompany you throughout the day. A blink is good too.
6. Write into a 1-sentence journal. Many people over complicate journaling. It’s helpful even if you just answer one question with one sentence. You cannot write a sentence without learning something. Pick one question you’ll answer each morning, for example:
- How do you feel right now?
- What did you learn yesterday?
- Are you ready to take on the day? Why/why not?
That’s it! Six minutes that will pay off for the rest of your day, and if you do it regularly, for the rest of your life.
4 minutes left on the clock, man, so much time, what else can you do? How about creating something?
- Start writing an answer on Quora.
- Take a picture and put it on Instagram.
- Craft a funny tweet.
- Send a snap to your family.
- Wish people a great day on Facebook.
- Give an inspiring speech on Soundcloud
Wow! You just woke up and you’ve already changed your life and made a positive impact on that of others.
Imagine what you can do in a day.
I learned this morning routine from Hal Elrod, a wonderful guy who’s detailed it in his book The Miracle Morning. I’ve written a much more extensive guide on it here: The Miracle Morning Solution – a 7-step morning routine.
No matter how bad things are, they could always get worse.
No matter how bad things are, they will eventually get better.
No matter how good things are, it will not last forever.
No matter how good things are, they can always get better.
- When faced with sexism or ageism or lookism or anything, just ask yourself “is this person in between me and what I want to do?” If the answer is no ignore it and move on. Your energy is better used to do work and out pacing people that way.
- Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions. Their opinion will change when you are the boss. Or they won’t. Who cares? Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.
- Characterize yourself as leader, visionary, self confident and willing to take risks.
- Fear is at the root of many barriers that women face. Fear of not being liked. Fear of drawing negative attention. Fear of making wrong choices. Fear of overreaching. Fear of being judged, fear of failure. What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
- Don’t be an imposter with limited skills or abilities. Feel worthy of the recognition. Don’t feel guilty. Don’t feel as if you are a fraud. Don’t underestimate yourself. Fake it till you make it.
- Take the opportunity and make an opportunity fit for you. Women have to keep their hands up.
- In order to protect ourselves from being disliked we question our abilities and downplay our achievements, especially in the presence of the others. We put ourselves down before others can.
- For a woman to replace me with we (women). Think personally and act communally while negotiating. Smile frequently, express appreciation and concern, invoking common interests, emphasizing larger goals and approach negotiation as solving a problem as opposed top taking a critical stance. Express motion and then quickly move on.
- Find your long term dream and an 18 month plan (how can I improve?).
- Only 1 criteria matter when picking a job and that is fast growth.
- Men apply even if they have 60% of the requirements.
- Most of the women suffer from Tiara syndrome, which means that they expect if they keep doing their job well someone will notice them and place a tiara on their head. So advocate for yourself.
- The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.
- Excel and you will get the mentor.
- Any judgement can feel harsh, but the upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful ignorance.
- Find a partner who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. These men exist.
- Done is better than perfect.
- Have good amount of sleep.
- Avoid unnecessary sacrifices.
- The definition of a Feminist – A person who believes in social, political and economic equality of the sexes,
This is one of the best techniques for people who struggle with procrastination. The Five Minute Miracle involves asking yourself; “Hmm, what action can I take in less than five minutes TODAY that moves this forward even the tiniest bit?” Once you’ve identified a small action, set a timer for five minutes and spend five minutes working on the task. Research shows that once you start something, you’re much more likely to finish it.
Kill It With Kindness.
Research shows that the more you can forgive yourself for past procrastination, the more likely you are to overcome your current procrastination and take action. Practice self-compassion when thinking of your past experience procrastinating.
Ask yourself why?
Sometimes, it can be helpful to understand exactly why you’ve been procrastinating a specific task. Are you afraid of something? Maybe you feel overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. Fill in the sentence; “I’m avoiding this task because…” or “I’m avoiding this task because I’m afraid that….” And see what shows up. Identifying your fears can help you realize the monsters in the closet aren’t as bad as you think.
Work in the right environment.
Even if you do everything else right, working in the wrong environment can make you succumb to procrastination. This means keeping yourself away from television, electronics, friends, and loud places. This isn’t what works for everyone, but you need to exercise discipline by working in the environment that’s right for you.
Take control of your self-talk.
Saying to yourself, “I’m not going to procrastinate. I will not procrastinate,” virtually ensures that you will procrastinate. There’s a classic study where participants were told to not think about a white bear. It turns out it’s nearly impossible to avoid thinking about something that you tell yourself not to, as your mind gravitates towards the thing you’re trying to avoid. The trick is to shift your attention to something completely different (and positive). Instead of telling yourself not to procrastinate, think about what you will do and how great it’s going to feel to have it done. This way, your mind fixates on the action you want to take instead of the behavior you’re trying to avoid.
Use productivity apps
Apps like aCalender for scheduling tasks beforehand, loop habit tracker to make sure that you maintain your everyday essential work, My Effectiveness Pro for time management (Eisenhower’s matrix).
Create something everyday
No matter what it is. Artwork, photos, videos, a journal, some code, anything that gets you into a creative mood and gets you working.
Set “goals” for the day
Procrastinators love planning, quite simply because planning does not involve doing, and doing is the procrastinator’s Kryptonite. At the beginning of each day identify a handful of things that you want to accomplish. Some say three things. It depends on how large the tasks are. Set a limit for yourself and work on each of them until they are done.
you can watch many other YouTube videos or blogs to help you overcome this faster. Please don’t start to procrastinate by watching those videos and reading those blogs for hours on a loop and not working on it
Research has found that it matters greatly to us whether we’re respected by others—even by strangers. Most of us don’t want to look foolish or lazy to other people. So by daring to say “I’ll send you the report by the end of the day” we add social benefits to following through on our promise—which can be just enough to nudge us to bite the bullet.
*Bonus – Making planners can be a form of procrastination as you feel that you have accomplished tasks without actually doing them. So, don’t spend more than 5 minutes on a planner.
INFP, you are kind, loving, gentle, sensitive and all of those sweet things. You are only 2% of the population, but I wish there were so many more of you. I just wish you would learn to love and accept yourself the way you love and accept the rest of us.
So here are some tips which will make your life easier.
- Work on not taking everything so personally.
Sometimes criticism, while hard to hear, is helpful; it’s how we grow. It rarely means anything about who you are as a person. When you feel criticized or hurt, think through what the person meant by it, what their intentions were, whether it’s something to be upset about. Think about whether they might actually have a point, and then use the feedback to make some changes.
- You are incredibly imaginative. Which is a good thing, except when it’s not.
Sometimes you have a tendency to make stories up in your head, so sometimes you maybe don’t ask questions because you’ve already filled in the gaps and written your own version of what the person is telling you. In order to really get close to someone, you need to stop making up stories about them and actually ask/listen instead.
- Being who you are is totally okay.
You may feel like you have no defenses in this cruel, cold world, but don’t hide who you are. You may feel almost like there’s something fundamentally wrong with you; you’re so sensitive and have so many feelings. It can be overwhelming and you may want to hide it, but I would argue that we really need people like you, so let us see you. The world needs people who are soft and tender-hearted and gentle and who accept others in all their quirky ways. Hold that kind of space for people; that’s your gift. I know you aren’t going to be able to let everyone in indiscriminately, but trust that there is value in exposing your truest self to the ones who matter.
- Completely despise being told what to do.
This is honestly their biggest problem. If you tell them to go left, they instantly are tempted to go right. They usually take instruction as a challenge to their freedom, so most INFPs need a workplace that essentially doesn’t tell them what to do, which, unfortunately, doesn’t exist.
- Photoshop your Self-Image.
Self-esteem comes from having a positive self-image. One trick, borrowed from the psychology of stress management, is to use the power of imagination. Picture yourself as the self-assured person you aspire to become. How do you feel when you allow your inner flame to burn so brightly? How do you look, stand, move, talk? How will it affect your work, health, relationships? See these things clearly in your mind’s eye and repeat the exercise whenever you need to fold away those self-doubts and stash them in a padlocked chest.This exercise is good for INFPs because it serves as both an affirmation and an action plan. On the one hand, visualization will help you purify your self-image and give you some additional internal resources to help you cope more effectively. On the other, it shows the gap between where you are now and where you would like to be. The photoshopped visual is the destination, and it will guide you as you take steps along your self-confidence journey.
- When INFPs feel passionate about something, watch out!
INFPs may see themselves as reluctant heroes. One minute they’re strolling through life, the next minute their passion has been awakened because they’ve stumbled across a person who needs their help. With their idealism driving them on, INFPs can be truly unstoppable. That’s why this type has accomplished great things—think Joan of Arc, who, as a teenager with no military training, led the French army to victory over the British during the Hundred Years’ War. Other famous INFPs include Princess Diana, Johnny Depp, Audrey Hepburn, Fred Rogers, John Lennon, Kurt Cobain, Tori Amos, William Shakespeare, Helen Keller, and Isabel Briggs Myers (creator of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator). INFPs are often found helping people who are sick, disabled, or in need. INFPs love rescuing the helpless. On the other hand, if INFPs don’t feel a sense of conviction, they tend to shut themselves off from the world. For INFPs, “when it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter. But when it matters…it matters big,”.
- INFPs can grow by having new experiences.
The INFP’s secondary function, Extroverted Intuition, is a learning process that “sees behind the curtain,” so to speak. It perceives patterns in the INFP’s experiences and makes connections that aren’t necessarily obvious or inherent by definition. It asks, “What if?” and sees possibilities. The way INFPs can grow on a personal level is by using this process to explore, make connections, and learn new things. For INFPs, this may mean traveling to new places, taking classes to learn new skills, joining groups or clubs to meet new people, or feeding their appetite for new information by reading or exploring the arts. The more INFPs have new experiences, the more they will add to their deep understanding of emotions and the human condition.
- Try to be a little less reserved.
I don’t mean go against your very nature and force yourself to be an extrovert, which is just stupid. I just mean that maybe next time, when you are deciding whether to talk to a person, talk to them. Next time a teacher asks a question (if you’re still in school), raise your hand. Make a new friend. Step out of your social boundaries just a little and you might find it better and easier than you expected. It could also be a great confidence booster!
- Stop being so hard on yourself
You are never going to be perfect. Perfection isn’t even a thing. You’re going to make mistakes (plenty of them) and accidentally hurt people’s feelings and do the wrong thing and generally make a mess sometimes, and it’s okay. You don’t need to hide in the corner and self-flagellate when you do. You don’t need to spiral into a pit of despair. It is entirely possible – and much healthier – to address whatever happened, apologize or clean it up, and move on. You’re never going to be perfect, but you’re good enough.
- A broken heart at any point in life can make you quite reticent to open back up to anyone (ever again).
Most of you have had your heart broken at least once, and while that’s true of most people, it can be particularly hard on an INFP. But remember that you love connecting. You love being in love. You love deep conversation and intimacy. You love shedding your protective layers and just being yourself in all your tender glory. It just scares the living shit out of you because it requires you to open up more than you feel safe opening up. Vulnerability is absolutely required. Sorry, I know you don’t want to hear it, but you are going to have to take risks. Every.single.time. Love is always a risk. It’s worth it.